Tag Archives: Bob Malm abuse of power

Bullying versus Peer Conflict

As I look over Bob Malm’s various emails, one of the striking things is how squarely his conduct falls within the definition of bullying, versus peer conflict. That’s not surprising, of course, because clergy are never peers with laity, but instead are ALWAYS responsible for establishing and maintaining appropriate boundaries. Consider the following comparison, published by various public… Read More »

Comment on Surviving Church Blog

There’s a great comment on the Rev. Stephen Parson’s blog, Surviving Church, under his original post about shunning in church, “Shunning — a barbaric practice.” The author, based in the US, says: Stephen, thank you for this post. I emailed you a while back about some things I’ve realized about my church culture – white US evangelical, in… Read More »

Mike Also Asks to be Dropped from all Episcopal Church Records

My husband Mike, who was received into The Episcopal Church during the Great Vigil of 2014, today asked that his name be removed from all church records. The move follows his decision last year to renounce the Christian faith. The decision is based exclusively on Bob Malm’s conduct. As he put it, “Throw my records in the shredder.”… Read More »

See for Yourself: Bob’s Misconduct Results in Declining Church Attendance

In previous posts, I documented the shocking decline of Grace Episcopal Church under Bob Malm’s “leadership,” including the loss of approximately 120 pledging units. Recent evidence further supports this conclusion, including vestry minutes, which reveal a 16 percent decline in average Sunday attendance (ASA), since he initiated his conflict with me. There’s also considerable evidence that, while parishioners have… Read More »

Context: I Previously Offered to Settle

As Bob Malm noisily tries to convince the fat cats at Mayo House and the Alexandria police department that I am mean, threatening and mentally ill, true to form he conveniently omits a salient fact, which is that in 2015 I offered to settle our differences. Through Jeff Chiow, Bob turned down my offer, yet now he angrily… Read More »

Bob Malm Announces Protective Order at Grace Vestry Meeting

Never one to shy away from making public his own ill-advised ideas, Bob Malm recently announced his efforts to get a protective order against me at the January 16, 2018 Grace Church vestry meeting, despite admitting in open court that I have not threatened him or anyone else at Grace Church. Meanwhile, his wife Leslie continues to falsely… Read More »